4. Make meals meaningful. Dining out can be a great part of vacationing. But even with an enjoyable meal, have a dinner topic in mind. Not everybody wants to hear that story about Cousin Earl one more time.

5. Find a quiet area of the restaurant. It is hard to hear in restaurants at any age; try to get a table close to a wall or in a corner for conversation.

6. Appreciate what your elderly relative can do, rather than what he or she cannot.
While it may not be a walk in the park, traveling with an elderly family member can be rewarding. You and your entire family can enjoy your relative’s unique perspective on life, sense of humor and wisdom. And, you will benefit from knowing you are caring for someone who has spent a lifetime caring for you. •
The Gables of Ojai is an assisted and independent living community, also offering and Alzheimer’s care programs. Their assisted living program offers a special combination of housing, personalized support services, and health care designed to respond to individuals who need help with activities of daily living, but do not need skilled medical care as provided by a nursing home. The Gables of Ojai promotes maximum independence and dignity for each resident, encouraging the involvement of family, friends and physicians. For more information call (805) 646-1446, or visit www.gablesofojai.com.